A Guide to Why is Life so Hard

Ladies and gentlemen, as we all know life is not fair. If you’ve lived in this world for long enough, then you probably know how hard life can be but you may not know why.

I’m pretty sure almost everybody in the world (rich or poor, young or old) has asked this question once in their lifetime: “Why is life so hard?”

“Luck is great, but most of life is hard work.”
– Iain Duncan Smith

Before jumping to find the answer to “why is life so hard?” you have to first understand what life is. So, what is life? I like to think of life as the ultimate experience.

The experience of being alive. Moreover, life is the sequence of events and activities that takes place in one’s existence in this world. 

That being said, every human being on this planet lives their life with a certain purpose, no matter how big or small. I doubt there’s anyone who doesn’t have a goal in their life.

So, to fulfill that purpose in our lives, we go through lots of things, both happy and sad, good and bad, positive and negative in our lives, which makes our life a balanced mixture of both happiness and unhappiness.

7 Reasons Why Life is So Hard

If you’ve ever found yourself crying your eyes out asking why is life so difficult, trust me you’re not alone. Because no matter how wealthy, healthy, young, or good-looking someone is, life still seems hard for everyone at some point in their lives.  

Sure, there are aspects in our lives such as our feelings, thoughts, and emotions that make our life hard. However, that’s not it, there are other things too that’s preventing you from living an easy and comfortable life.

So, here are the 7 reasons why life continues to be so hard for you.

1. You live in a society

The reason we don’t live our life to the fullest is that we don’t get to do things we want to. And guess who stops us from doing those things we desire to do?

Yes, you got it right, Society! It’s the society that tells us what to do from the very beginning of our life. And since they are the ones who make the rules, we are obliged to follow them.

And not only do they halt you from doing what you like, but they also prevent you from achieving success in your life. Even if you do become successful, there will always be someone who will try to pull your leg to bring you down.

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2. You are an emotional being

One of the most common traits of human beings is that we have emotions, we feel things, and we react accordingly. And one of the reasons that our life seems so hard is because we tend to focus more on the negative aspects of our life.

For instance, when we go through a rough phase in our life, we automatically think that it will affect us, and guess what it does. We, humans, have a very bad habit of trying to avoid or hide from failure. 

3. You are ignorant

Ignorance is one of the major reasons for life’s hardships. People who are ignorant are certain to be miserable and have a hard life. And the reason behind ignorance is the wrong education.

I’ve seen so many ignorant people in my life, and what I found common in most of them is that they weren’t really ignorant. Wait, what! No, I mean in comparison to the uneducated people, they were less ignorant.

However, their beliefs were formed by the lies and propaganda they were taught. So, the reason life is complicated for you is because you’re probably ignorant of the truth.

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4. You are selfish

Do you remember how you were taught in school that sharing is caring? Guess what, that had been the whole mantra of living a good life.

If you are a selfish person, you definitely ask yourself “Why is life so difficult?” It’s because selfish people only think of themselves and don’t care about others at all.

When you shift the spotlight from yourself and start caring about others, doing charitable things, you start to see how fortunate you are to have the life you have. 

5. You’re not responsible

If you think you can live a happy life without taking any responsibilities and always relying on others then one day you’ll wonder why is life so tough.

In my opinion, being responsible is one of the most powerful traits you can possess in life. That’s because it’s you who is ultimately accountable for everything that happens in your life; your happiness and unhappiness, success and failures.

So, if you’re wondering why is life so complicated for you? That may be because you are not responsible for your words and actions. 

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6.You’re afraid

Let’s admit we’re all afraid of something. Whether it’s the fear of failure, being broke, or losing someone, every one of us is overwhelmed by fear.

However, it’s normal to have a fear of something. But when you don’t let that fear of yours out for a long time, it affects your life very negatively.

Therefore, to completely defeat that fear inside you, you have to accept that you can’t control everything in your life and it’s ok. When you change your perspective of looking at things without fear, your life will be a lot easier than before.

7. You’re not patient enough

I get this a lot from so many people who think their life is tough. They want to be successful overnight, without making any efforts and sacrifices.

I believe that I’m not the first person to tell you this, but nothing is easy and it takes time and effort. The first thing you have to do is believe in yourself and have the patience that things will happen when it’s supposed to be. 

In Conclusion

I know life can sometimes be so hard and unbearable that you might think of giving up and hurting yourself. But, as I said earlier, life is a combination of both happiness and unhappiness.

Life is not always rainbow and sunshine, there are storms, too. Although these 7 points might seem like your weaknesses, in truth, they’re also the secrets to a happy life. So, learn from your mistakes and try to make the best out of your life.

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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS (FAQs)

Why is life so difficult?

You say you’ll do something and then you don’t. That’s what makes life harder than it needs to be. If you do the things you said you would do, you’d live a much easier life, even if it means being uncomfortable from time to time.

Does life ever get easier?

With age, we accrue more experiences, more self-awareness, and more successfully navigated pain and heartbreak. But life doesn’t get better because you’re older, you just get better at dealing with how life works. Here are seven reasons that life gets easier with age.

Why is life so unfair?

We suffer because of the idea that life was meant to be painless and things should go smoothly as it is. You don’t expect life to be fair to you because you are a good person or you work so hard. Life has its own rules, it’s complicated and not the same for everyone.

How do you deal with a horrible life?

1. Release your frustrations.
2. Realize you are not alone. 
3. Being frustrated isn’t going to solve anything. 
4. Know you always have a choice. 
5. Objectify it. 
6. Focus on what you can do. 
7. Ask for help if you need to. 

Which stage of life is the most difficult?

Adolescence is the hardest stage in one’s life. There are too many drastic life changes like physical, psychological, and behavioral changes going on in one’s life. It is easy for adolescents to get lost on their way in searching for the adult world by making mistakes.